How should you pray?

How should you pray?

Or perhaps rather: how  can you pray ?


Praying is simply speaking: talking to God.

Quite crazy maybe. It’s not like having a cup of coffee with someone at the kitchen table. There is no person facing you who can look you in the eye, talk back and ask questions – not literally.

According to the Van Dale, prayer is described as calling (asking for help) to a higher being. You can do this out loud or in silence. You can say what you want to God!

In this blog we will start practically praying.


In theory you can pray wherever you want. But it’s best to find a quiet place in the house to start with.

When you pray, you want to focus your thoughts on God. This works best if you are not disturbed in your environment.


First select one moment per day. The best is a fixed moment, so that you get regularity in your prayer life. Before you start your day, or before you go to sleep. You can slowly expand this to more moments per day – what helps you to pray is best.


You can start by praying for a few minutes at a time. You can pray longer if you feel that it suits you and wants to or can say more. The intention is to spend time with God. Keep it natural and relaxed.


There is no fixed attitude that you have to adopt. Standing, sitting, kneeling, folded hands, closed eyes – it’s all possible. 


It is customary to begin by addressing God with “Lord God”, “Our Father”, “Dear God” (find a form of address that suits you), and then move on.

You can also be silent for a while while praying. To relax and to let what you have said land. And are you more a writer? Then you can also write down your prayer and possibly read it to God.


There is no fixed form in which you ‘must’ pray. Some people feel comfortable with regular prayers, such as the Lord’s Prayer or a ritual prayer before eating or going to sleep.

We want to encourage you to pray (also) in your own words. That helps you become familiar with the idea that you can turn to God – regardless of the time, choice of words or content.

Praying can feel awkward in the beginning, and that is completely normal. Tell God what concerns you. What beautiful things have you experienced? What are you worried about? You can be honest and specific to God. You can also pray for yourself and for others. You can also say things that didn’t go well.

Another aspect of prayer is thanking God: for who He is, what He does and what He has done. God is so great that you will be surprised again and again about who He is.


When you have finished praying, you can close with ‘Amen’. That means ‘sure it is’! It is like a signature under your prayer.


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